Notice the Signs of Excessive Anger
Daniel Goleman, in his ‘Emotional Intelligence’, says that the most successful people are those who have mastery over their emotions – with anger, being on top of that list of emotions.
Almost everyone will agree that no one enjoys being angry. Yet the fact remains that as a human being, we’re all going to have to deal with this emotion, sooner or later.
And it’s how you deal with it that helps you to alter the way a ‘situation’ is handled appropriately rather than letting it spiral out of control in a bout of anger.
Being able to control the outcome of such a situation requires one to do a bit of introspective thinking: one which will help you enjoy every moment that life has to offer. If you know what makes you angry and recognize when you feel anger taking control of you, that’s the key to mastering excessive anger, and getting off that destructive path that it could lead you on.
Think about it: if you know what makes you angry, then you can take conscious steps to avoid such people and situations.
So, ask yourself these questions:
#1: How do I know when I’m angry?
#2: What people, situations or things make me angry?
#3: How do I and other people react to my anger?
That’s the easy part, and even if you do eliminate these sources of stress, there will be time when things will still get out of hand, leading to an instance of excessive anger.
For this, learning how to aware of the signs of excessive anger is probably the best way to ensure that could help you respond instead of react instinctively. Usually, there are physical and emotional signs that can help you short-circuit feelings of anger, and so here is a list:
#1: Physical Signs
- Clenching your jaws
- Grinding your teeth
- Suffering from a head ache or a stomach ache
- Rapid heart rate
- Dizziness
- Shaking or trembling with anger
- Feeling ‘hot’ in the neck or face
#2: Emotional Signs
- Feeling depressed or sad
- Guilty
- Irritable
- Anxious
- Resentful
- Desire to strike out at the person physically or verbally
#3: Others
While the signs mentioned above are more obvious, there are other signs that are subtler, and here is a list of these signs:
- If you’re on the verge of screaming, yelling or crying
- Cupping your fist with the other hand
- Being sarcastic
- Wanting to have a drink, a smoke or other substances that relax you
- If your sense of humor has suddenly disappeared
- If you begin to raise your voice
- If you pace up and down quickly
By now, you must have already recognized a few that happen to you when you lose your cool, and keeping this checklist of warning signs handy can go a long way in eliminating the inappropriate expression that comes with excessive anger.
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